Rose Kent is a wonderful friend and therapist who lives in Glasgow, Scotland. During ‘lockdown’ in 2020 she wrote an ‘A – Z’ of advice for couples, about how they might best maintain and repair their relationship during stressful times. I have reproduced it below with her permission.
These ‘A B C’ notes on maintaining and repairing relationships during “lockdown” are based on personal and professional experience. They’re also relevant for when our relationships with partners are under any kind of strain.
Feeling irritable, can’t concentrate? Wondering why you can’t cope? Switching between blaming yourself and blaming your partner? You’re not the only one: this is really, really normal in close relationships during anxious times. And being ‘isolated together’ is a major additional stress.
You may just use the notes as occasional ‘tips and hints’ . Most of us have at least some relationship struggles, often hidden from view… there are NO perfect relationships!
Alternatively, start with A, B, C as if you were starting a new “Exercise Programme” (- with the eventual goal a more healthy relationship) and commit yourself to working on a different letter of the alphabet every 2 to 3 days, then check your progress by re-starting from A! [Read more…] about RELATIONSHIPS: Maintenance and Repair A-C by Rose Kent