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Getting the Most out of Therapy

February 9, 2021 By Roland Leave a Comment

Therapy is one of the few places where you can be completely honest with yourself and explore all your thoughts, feelings and actions. However, therapy is not simple or easy. Like any worthwhile undertaking, it can be demanding as well as immensely fulfilling.

To get the most out of your time in therapy, you should ask yourself: How can I best use this time? What will help me make the changes I want? What might get in the way of making progress? [Read more…] about Getting the Most out of Therapy

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Enhance Your Brain Health

March 13, 2019 By Roland Leave a Comment

The Amazing Brain

We experience the world and ourselves through neurological processes. That means that every thought, feeling, sensation, memory, impulse, awareness—everything it takes to be a human being—is reliant on electrical/biochemical activity in our brain. All of our healthy functioning depends on the state of our brain—and we need to take care of it.

Below is a wide range of health-enhancing suggestions based on the current research. Using these suggestions, make changes in your life-style gradually and in moderation. Try different approaches and choose methods that suit you best. Use professional resources—massage, bodywork, psychotherapy, nutritionist, coaching, personal trainer, yoga, tai chi or fitness classes—to resolve issues and change behaviors, as needed. [Read more…] about Enhance Your Brain Health

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Dreaming of Change

January 23, 2019 By Roland

Change Mind Map

I had a vivid dream recently. In it I was visiting a friend who looked vibrant and told me he had started working with a new kind of therapy offered by a very special therapist. My friend turned to me and asked, “Would you like to make every little change you ever thought of?” [Read more…] about Dreaming of Change

Filed Under: Blog, Dreaming, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Worrying—And What To Do About It

January 14, 2019 By Roland

Fiery Dawn

Given the state of the world and the dire political situation, a certain amount of anxiety is completely normal. However, some of us find ourselves worrying endlessly, particularly if we wake in the middle of the night and our minds get crowded with things that might go wrong.

If you worry excessively, you may be constitutionally sensitive and/or have had unpredictable negative things happened to you earlier in life. However, that does not mean you cannot find a much better way to cope with life’s demands. [Read more…] about Worrying—And What To Do About It

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Self-care

Regret: The path not taken

November 30, 2018 By Roland

GettyImages-115738209.jpgWhat will we most regret on our deathbed?  Immediately after we have been humiliated or made a big blunder, most of us think we will regret it for the rest of our life. No so. The research is clear: we most regret those things we fail to do – not the things we actually do.  In the long run, it matter little that we make a mess or mistake. Those things fade from memory. What haunts us and becomes a burden are the things we let slide: our procrastinations, our hesitations, our inability to take a leap of faith and following our dreams.

[Read more…] about Regret: The path not taken

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Procrastination

September 28, 2018 By Roland

Procrastination is not only the ‘thief of time’ but also the life stealer. Putting things off creates an inner tension that stops a person from enjoying the present and creates a future full of ignored and undone tasks.

The cause of procrastination is avoidance of pain and fear. We avoid the pain of facing those feelings and actions we have avoided in the past; we fear that completing a task in the future will make things worse.

Pain grows greater as we neglect to accomplish or finish what we hope or expected to do. As the pain grows, so does the avoidance and fear of the future. The pain and fear cluster around certain themes: [Read more…] about Procrastination

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Therapy and Spirituality

August 27, 2017 By Roland

Good therapy is a pebble tossed into a still pond.  After the initial eruption and  crisis, the ripples of change travel ever outward, reaching distant shores.  These waves of energetic influence may move out into the world, touching family, children, friends and neighbors.  They also move inward, expanding deeper and more profoundly into the psyche.  Sometimes they lap against the soul.  [Read more…] about Therapy and Spirituality

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Spirituality

Marriage as a Sacred Journey: Hugs and Quarrels

August 27, 2017 By Roland

The title of the talk is “Hugs and Quarrels” because that is what we do when we are married: we cling together and we push apart—hopefully we come together more than we part but both seem to be essential in an evolving marriage.  Connecting and separating are the light and dark, yin and yang of a relationship. [Read more…] about Marriage as a Sacred Journey: Hugs and Quarrels

Filed Under: Blog, Psychotherapy, Relationship

Dealing with Conflict

August 27, 2017 By Roland

At some stage in almost all relationships, there will be either explicit or covert conflict.  How the we deal with this conflict has enormous importance for the future of the relationship and its ability to grow.  Below are propositions about conflict that relate equally to intimate relationships and families. [Read more…] about Dealing with Conflict

Filed Under: Blog, Psychotherapy, Relationship

Rebuilding Relationship after an Affair

August 27, 2017 By Roland

After an affair, if the couple decides to stay together, they have to approach the relationship as if they are starting afresh; they have to rebuild their relationship. Like a bridge that has collapsed, the relationship has to be constructed on a solid foundation—or it may falter again.  [Read more…] about Rebuilding Relationship after an Affair

Filed Under: Blog, Psychotherapy, Relationship

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