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Dealing with Conflict

August 27, 2017 By Roland

At some stage in almost all relationships, there will be either explicit or covert conflict.  How the we deal with this conflict has enormous importance for the future of the relationship and its ability to grow.  Below are propositions about conflict that relate equally to intimate relationships and families. [Read more…] about Dealing with Conflict

Filed Under: Blog, Psychotherapy, Relationship

Rebuilding Relationship after an Affair

August 27, 2017 By Roland

After an affair, if the couple decides to stay together, they have to approach the relationship as if they are starting afresh; they have to rebuild their relationship. Like a bridge that has collapsed, the relationship has to be constructed on a solid foundation—or it may falter again.  [Read more…] about Rebuilding Relationship after an Affair

Filed Under: Blog, Psychotherapy, Relationship

Presence

August 27, 2017 By Roland

A transpersonal approach to psychotherapy requires that the nature and being of the psychotherapist become a central subject of attention.  Presence, in all its manifestations, can be used as a core principle in our exploration of what it is to be therapeutic.  It bridges the experiential, psychological and spiritual realms and provides a model of aspiration for the transpersonal psychotherapist.  This model comprises both a psychological dimension: Being in the Present, Becoming Present, Creating Mutual Presence; and a spiritual dimension: Embodying Presence and The Numinous Presence. [Read more…] about Presence

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology

Loss

August 27, 2017 By Roland

Every one experiences loss during their life.  Some losses, however, have a profound effect, causing debilitating and long lasting grief.  How a person copes with a particular loss–whether it is of a loved one, of physical health and ability or of hopes and dreams–depends on its particular meaning to that person.  Each loss tends to activates any previous unresolved life experience; the emotional impact may seem way out of proportion–far greater than we would normally expect. [Read more…] about Loss

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

The Tasks of Living

August 27, 2017 By Roland

  • Accept the reality of life
  • Experience the joys and pain of being alive
  • Adjust to changing circumstances
  • Invest emotional energy in relationships
  • Let go of old patterns and attachments
  • Get in touch with the deeper aspects of the Self
  • Be aware of the experience that you are experiencing
  • Pay attention to the difference between Doing and Being
  • Develop a spiritual practice that nourishes your Inner Self through quiet

 

 

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Spirituality

The Tasks of Aging

August 27, 2017 By Roland

My Father and I, 2004

When you get to age 60, you know that you have lived the majority of your life span. Now is the time to get real, face the situation and set priorities for the latter part of our lives.  Here are some thoughts on the tasks of aging.

Face Reality:
Reality 1. We are getting older. Our bodies are beginning to deteriorate and over the years, we will experience decreased ability, discomfort and ill health. [Read more…] about The Tasks of Aging

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Self-care

The Unconscious Mind

August 27, 2017 By Roland

What is the unconscious mind?  First off, it is not a mind separate from our ordinary waking awareness.  It is more like a mass of interacting processes working at different levels that influence and give rise to our consciousness. These processes are necessarily unavailable to our awareness. In fact, it has been shown that about 0.4 seconds before we are aware of any conscious decision, unconscious processes have already decided that outcome. [Read more…] about The Unconscious Mind

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

Charter for Compassion

August 27, 2017 By Roland

The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect. [Read more…] about Charter for Compassion

Filed Under: Blog, Other Things, Psychology

Finding Your Life Purpose

August 27, 2017 By Roland

We come into the world with and for a Purpose–or maybe a set of interlocking purposes.  These purposes include the need to develop wholeness within ourselves and in our relationships and the drive to make a difference in the world.  We discover our own uniqueness in order to make the most positive impact [Read more…] about Finding Your Life Purpose

Filed Under: Blog, Inspiration, Psychology, Spirituality

Rhythm of Consciousness

August 27, 2017 By Roland

Consciousness is a long wave coming and going, washing against the shores of our life, reminding us of who we are, then submerging us again in the depths of unawareness. We have no choice but to remember and forget, only to remember and forget again–at the mercy of the fragile flickering flame of awareness within us. [Read more…] about Rhythm of Consciousness

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology

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