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15: Stuck in the Mud

May 20, 2022 By Roland Leave a Comment

Autumn 1968—Spring 1969, Age 17

The world turned softly gray and overcast. In the intermittent drizzle, the caravan sagged like a deflating balloon, sullen and brooding in its garden of nettles and thistles, bedecked with leak-proof silver ribbons. I was back in Dungarvan, living with Mother. Cork was no more than a glimpse of freedom, a dream of escape fading into a prison nightmare. How could it all have slipped away?

I couldn’t really blame Mother; it wasn’t all her fault. I’d agreed to everything—every choice, every change of direction, but like a labyrinth, whenever I turned a corner, there was another dead-end. I couldn’t find a way out and now I was trapped, doing the same dreary things day after day. I had to believe there was a point; I had to hope there was an exit. [Read more…] about 15: Stuck in the Mud

Filed Under: Surface and Depths

War Trauma

April 11, 2022 By Roland Leave a Comment

The terrible devastation in Ukraine disturbs me at a very deep level. It closely resembles the launch of World War II when Hitler invaded Poland. That war is personal for me; it traumatized and damaged both my parents and as a consequence, created untold disturbance in my family. [Read more…] about War Trauma

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Self-care

Cultivating Knowing: a conversation

February 14, 2022 By Roland Leave a Comment

“I can’t decide,” said the young man pacing up and down. “It’s a jumble and I don’t even know if I trust myself. What should I do?”

The old man sat quietly looking down at the ground. After a pause he looked at the young man and replied, “That’s because you don’t know where to decide from.”

“What do you mean? How do I make a decision from somewhere? I just need to make up my mind.”

“So you decide with your mind? You think a decision!” [Read more…] about Cultivating Knowing: a conversation

Filed Under: Inspiration, Psychology, Self-care, Spirituality

Fishing for Dreams: Part 1

December 19, 2021 By Roland Leave a Comment

Dreamfish
Dreamfish

This is the first of a two-part article on how to work with dreams. Tongue-in-cheek, I explore different aspects of dreamwork using the metaphor of fish and fishing. In this section, I deal with how we catch, hold on to and recognize different kinds of dreams. A second article will address how to prepare, cook and digest these strange creatures of the unconscious.

Dreams are slippery fish—hard to catch and difficult to hold. They don’t give up their nourishment without a bit of a struggle and some resolute cooking. [Read more…] about Fishing for Dreams: Part 1

Filed Under: Dreaming, Psychology

Fishing for Dreams: Part 2

February 4, 2022 By Roland Leave a Comment

Preparing Fish
Preparing Dreamfish

This is the second of a two-part article on dreamwork using the metaphor of fishing. We have caught our dream-fish and held it tight so it does not slip through the fingers of our mind. Now comes the really interesting part: How to prepare and cook our dream so that it provides nourishment for our hearts, minds and souls.

Lay out the fish
Our dream-fish lies fresh in our minds-eye. We examine it carefully to see what we need to do next. This is when we write down the dream. [Read more…] about Fishing for Dreams: Part 2

Filed Under: Dreaming, Psychology

Spirituality and Relationship in Later Life

December 20, 2021 By Roland Leave a Comment

Published in “Jung and Aging,” 2014
Jerry M. Ruhl, Ph.D. and Roland Evans, M.A.

 Introduction

“Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone—we find it with another.” 1 This quote from Thomas Merton, the Trappist monk and author, points toward a neglected aspect of relationship in the second half of life: that it can become the container for profound inner growth.

[Read more…] about Spirituality and Relationship in Later Life

Filed Under: Blog, Relationship, Spirituality

Self-Care during the Covid-19 Pandemic

March 21, 2020 By Roland 19 Comments

This is an extraordinary and difficult time. With so much uncertainty and social turmoil, it is easy to give in to fear and hopelessness. We must keep physically safe to avoid being infected and infecting others. We must also take care of our emotional and mental wellbeing. Below are suggestions to help you maintain your inner psychological balance. [Read more…] about Self-Care during the Covid-19 Pandemic

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Self-care

Getting the Most out of Therapy

February 9, 2021 By Roland Leave a Comment

Therapy is one of the few places where you can be completely honest with yourself and explore all your thoughts, feelings and actions. However, therapy is not simple or easy. Like any worthwhile undertaking, it can be demanding as well as immensely fulfilling.

To get the most out of your time in therapy, you should ask yourself: How can I best use this time? What will help me make the changes I want? What might get in the way of making progress? [Read more…] about Getting the Most out of Therapy

Filed Under: Blog, Psychology, Psychotherapy

RELATIONSHIPS: Maintenance and Repair A-C by Rose Kent

March 26, 2021 By Roland Leave a Comment

Rose Kent is a wonderful friend and therapist who lives in Glasgow, Scotland. During ‘lockdown’ in 2020 she wrote an ‘A – Z’  of advice for  couples, about how they might best maintain and repair their relationship during stressful times.  I have reproduced it below with her permission.

These ‘A B C’ notes on maintaining and repairing relationships during “lockdown” are based on personal and professional experience. They’re also relevant for when our relationships with partners are under any kind of strain.

Feeling irritable, can’t concentrate? Wondering why you can’t cope? Switching between blaming yourself and blaming your partner? You’re not the only one: this is really, really normal in close relationships during anxious times. And being ‘isolated together’ is a major additional stress.

You may just use the notes as occasional ‘tips and hints’ . Most of us have at least some relationship struggles, often hidden from view… there are NO perfect relationships!

Alternatively, start with A, B, C as if you were starting a new “Exercise Programme” (- with the eventual goal a more healthy relationship) and commit yourself to working on a different letter of the alphabet every 2 to 3 days, then check your progress by re-starting from A! [Read more…] about RELATIONSHIPS: Maintenance and Repair A-C by Rose Kent

Filed Under: Blog, Maintenance and Repair, Relationship

Surface and Depths: Introduction

February 15, 2021 By Roland 1 Comment

Introduction
Therefore the spirit of the depths forced me to speak to my soul, to call upon her as a living and self-existing being.
C. G. Jung, The Red Book

This is a story of my life between the ages of 14 and 18, an intense period that happened during the 1960’s in Wales and Ireland. It is an odd story, filled with twists and turns—but it is real, or at least as real as my memory and my Self allows. [1] I wrote most of the narrative years ago, but something was missing, incomplete. [Read more…] about Surface and Depths: Introduction

Filed Under: Blog, Surface and Depths

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15: Stuck in the Mud

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