Organizational culture (OC) is hard to pin down but can be described as the pervasive, enduring, shared values, beliefs, norms and assumptions of the organization and its members. [Read more…] about Organizational Culture
How well we do in our life fluctuates day-by-day and even hour-by-hour. We feel it in our sense of wellbeing and our ability to be productive and effective. In general, our overall functioning is a result of the balance between those things, people and activity that brigs us satisfactions and those same things that makes us frustrated.
Think of satisfactions as all those things, both inner and outer, that nourish our sense of self. In contrast, frustrations are all those blockages that obstruct our sense of movement, progress and expansion in our daily life. [Read more…] about How Well Are You Doing?
What are boundaries?
- Everything we can name has some sort of boundary to distinguish it from every other thing
- Boundaries make the world and our experience knowable and communicable
- We cannot differentiate something that does not have some sort of edge or contrast with its surroundings—whether through our senses, our ideas or our feelings.
Procrastination is not only the ‘thief of time’ but also the life stealer. Putting things off creates an inner tension that stops a person from enjoying the present and creates a future full of ignored and undone tasks.
The cause of procrastination is avoidance of pain and fear. We avoid the pain of facing those feelings and actions we have avoided in the past; we fear that completing a task in the future will make things worse.
Pain grows greater as we neglect to accomplish or finish what we hope or expected to do. As the pain grows, so does the avoidance and fear of the future. The pain and fear cluster around certain themes: [Read more…] about Procrastination
In a committed relationship, we agree to be involved in all aspects of each other’s lives. That includes giving of our selves to each other. Sharing our lives and sharing our selves—these are at the heart of an intimate relationship. But sharing is not always easy: we are all selfish and we all have parts of ourself we hesitate to let others see. It takes courage to open our hearts to deeper sharing. Sharing can feel risky but the rewards are immeasurable. [Read more…] about Sharing: A Cornerstone of Relationship
As we approach our own dreams, even with all the book learning in the world, we are often mystified. Dreams are somewhat opaque; they do not give up their meaning easily. Possibly our conscious mind is not ready to remember the dream, or maybe it discounts the dream as meaningless. Even when we can hold onto the images and story, it often resists our attempts at understanding. [Read more…] about Dreams and the Dreamer
Good therapy is a pebble tossed into a still pond. After the initial eruption and crisis, the ripples of change travel ever outward, reaching distant shores. These waves of energetic influence may move out into the world, touching family, children, friends and neighbors. They also move inward, expanding deeper and more profoundly into the psyche. Sometimes they lap against the soul. [Read more…] about Therapy and Spirituality
The title of the talk is “Hugs and Quarrels” because that is what we do when we are married: we cling together and we push apart—hopefully we come together more than we part but both seem to be essential in an evolving marriage. Connecting and separating are the light and dark, yin and yang of a relationship. [Read more…] about Marriage as a Sacred Journey: Hugs and Quarrels
At some stage in almost all relationships, there will be either explicit or covert conflict. How the we deal with this conflict has enormous importance for the future of the relationship and its ability to grow. Below are propositions about conflict that relate equally to intimate relationships and families. [Read more…] about Dealing with Conflict
After an affair, if the couple decides to stay together, they have to approach the relationship as if they are starting afresh; they have to rebuild their relationship. Like a bridge that has collapsed, the relationship has to be constructed on a solid foundation—or it may falter again. [Read more…] about Rebuilding Relationship after an Affair